The Home Service Expert Podcast
01:07:51 · Becca Erdmann, Tommy Mello, Kyle Erdmann
[01:07:51] S1: Okay. [01:07:51] S0: And then Mark Winters broke off and wrote Visionary. And then Gino Wickman sold EOS and he bought this huge emptiness and he wrote a book, not happiness. Happiness. It's a book just like that, but he wrote like, literally you feel like your dream, you got a pile of money but you lost your purpose. Oh man, I'm brain farting right now. But we can keep going. [01:08:17] S1: Yeah. I haven't read the visionary one [01:08:20] S0: but we Yeah. So Mark Winners, you guys should have that. I'll give you guys a couple of good books to read Yeah. Before you leave. Someone's that meant a lot to me in this last year. Obviously, this is nothing. If you guys saw my house and my office, you'd be like, what the hell is wrong with this guy? So let's start wrapping up here. You guys have built a $24,000,000 company, you're raising two kids, navigated a generational transition, expanded into a new state, and managed to stay married through all of it. What's one piece of advice for every couple or family and business together? [01:08:50] S2: Keep growing. Grow mentally, grow personally, grow together. I think that where some people fall behind is they, you know, like I have people that are in my mindset group with me that their wives aren't a part of it and their biggest thing is that they're growing and their wife isn't or their partner isn't growing with them. So it's, I think that if you just continuously grow and help people grow, the magic happens.
01:08:50 · Kyle Erdmann, Becca Erdmann
[01:08:50] S2: Keep growing. Grow mentally, grow personally, grow together. I think that where some people fall behind is they, you know, like I have people that are in my mindset group with me that their wives aren't a part of it and their biggest thing is that they're growing and their wife isn't or their partner isn't growing with them. So it's, I think that if you just continuously grow and help people grow, the magic happens. [01:09:18] S1: I'd say communication. You can't figure out how to communicate, I mean, even if you're not in business, at your own house. Not harbor anger or resentment. Just talk through the problems, not see them as problems, not bad or good. Just look for the solutions and moving forward. Keep a positive outlook and attitude. Communication is really the key to everything. So...
01:09:18 · Becca Erdmann, Tommy Mello
[01:09:18] S1: I'd say communication. You can't figure out how to communicate, I mean, even if you're not in business, at your own house. Not harbor anger or resentment. Just talk through the problems, not see them as problems, not bad or good. Just look for the solutions and moving forward. Keep a positive outlook and attitude. Communication is really the key to everything. So... [01:09:41] S0: I was reading an article the other day and said, you know, that old cliche never go to bed angry? Mhmm. Is this like, sometimes I'm just angry and I'm gonna go to bed. I'm not gonna deal with it. It's midnight. It's just like, you know, sometimes like, I don't wanna talk about it tonight. Like, let's just like, let's sit on it and then we'll figure out like, gotta... So guys, I think, need to collect their feelings. Sometimes we don't even wanna go into our internals. Oh, yeah. I mean, I'm so used to just putting a band aid on and covering it up and building a wall. I think that's what guys do in general. And I think women are like, well, with that rate they want to talk about everything. I think there's got to be, you know, I think it's like there's a lot of shows in my past that remind me of this. But it's definitely like one of those things where there's gotta you gotta meet in the middle.
01:09:41 · Tommy Mello, Kyle Erdmann
[01:09:41] S0: I was reading an article the other day and said, you know, that old cliche never go to bed angry? Mhmm. Is this like, sometimes I'm just angry and I'm gonna go to bed. I'm not gonna deal with it. It's midnight. It's just like, you know, sometimes like, I don't wanna talk about it tonight. Like, let's just like, let's sit on it and then we'll figure out like, gotta... So guys, I think, need to collect their feelings. Sometimes we don't even wanna go into our internals. Oh, yeah. I mean, I'm so used to just putting a band aid on and covering it up and building a wall. I think that's what guys do in general. And I think women are like, well, with that rate they want to talk about everything. I think there's got to be, you know, I think it's like there's a lot of shows in my past that remind me of this. But it's definitely like one of those things where there's gotta you gotta meet in the middle. [01:10:23] S2: Definitely. And then... Yeah. I mean, the big thing for us was we we dream together. So we we sit outside in our porch. We open a bottle of wine, and we just dream and talk about all the... You know, me being a visionary, all the big visions I'm having, and she talks about the vision she's having and we just talk about where we're heading to and how great life is.
01:10:23 · Kyle Erdmann, Becca Erdmann
[01:10:23] S2: Definitely. And then... Yeah. I mean, the big thing for us was we we dream together. So we we sit outside in our porch. We open a bottle of wine, and we just dream and talk about all the... You know, me being a visionary, all the big visions I'm having, and she talks about the vision she's having and we just talk about where we're heading to and how great life is. [01:10:42] S1: Well, we also celebrate the wins and, you know, great gratitude. Like, we're grateful every single day. Like, the reason I'm happy and fulfilled is because I'm grateful for everything that I have. I was also... Ten years ago, before we had any of this, I was also grateful and fulfilled because I have my best friend, my partner in life, and we have two healthy kids. And that's what I wanted out of life and to build anything on that... Anything beyond that is a cherry on top. So I can keep going. I mean, we can build as much as we want. It's fun. Like, right? Like, this is great. So, you know, I think gratitude is a huge part of it too. We're just grateful and thankful for where we are, where we came from, how we got here and where we're going.
01:10:42 · Becca Erdmann, Tommy Mello
[01:10:42] S1: Well, we also celebrate the wins and, you know, great gratitude. Like, we're grateful every single day. Like, the reason I'm happy and fulfilled is because I'm grateful for everything that I have. I was also... Ten years ago, before we had any of this, I was also grateful and fulfilled because I have my best friend, my partner in life, and we have two healthy kids. And that's what I wanted out of life and to build anything on that... Anything beyond that is a cherry on top. So I can keep going. I mean, we can build as much as we want. It's fun. Like, right? Like, this is great. So, you know, I think gratitude is a huge part of it too. We're just grateful and thankful for where we are, where we came from, how we got here and where we're going. [01:11:18] S0: That's great. I think gratitude's missing these days. I know a buddy of mine has one of the largest sales. I'm not gonna say his name, but he's massive in sales organizations and some of the guys are making a ridiculous amount of money. And when you're making a million and $0.5 a year as a sales rep, you're driving in with a Ferrari and you're constantly upset that you don't have more and more and more. So he started talking about every morning they had to talk about the things that they came from, the gratitude statements, journaling. [01:11:48] S1: Right.